Couples Counselling


Communication

You may feel that there is a gap in your connection with your partner and that you do just not understand each other. This may be affecting your intimacy and ability to just be comfortable around one another. You also could be experiencing a general feeling of tension and dissatisfaction that you are not sure of how to resolve and discuss with your significant other.


Infidelity

If you have found out about extramarital relations that your partner is having, or you are having concerns because you are engaged with infidelity yourself, this may be a very scary, painful, and lonely experience from being disconnected with your partner. You may also wish to leave your current relationship and are having difficulty doing so for many reasons. Counselling can help make your path clearer, and assist you with developing strategies to navigate it. Counselling can also help with sorting out the emotional baggage that goes along with trust issues that arise from these concerns.


Pre-marital

You have found (or thought you did) a great person to be with, and then a question pops up in your mind, "Am I doing the right thing?” This might also be just a general overwhelming feeling from how permanent it feels. At this point, you might be considering counselling to get some perspective and assistance with exploring the pros and cons and impact of your decision. Essentially, you might be looking for help figuring out if this is the best person for you, and if it will be fulfilling for both of you.


Separation/Divorce

You may have been thinking about it just recently or have been considering the decision to separate from your partner for some time. You might need a clearer picture of the situation or help with overcoming some of the obstacles that go along with separating and sorting out the entire lives of two people. The emotional pain and sheer amount of obligation to accomplish this is overwhelming, and you may feel lost in the stress of having to maintain your working life (and sanity).

Couples counselling for separation and divorce can help you with deciding which direction you want to go in, and create strategies to navigate the phases. Counselling can also help with building your confidence, self-esteem, and repair trust and intimacy concerns that may have developed in the turmoil of your relationship.


Parenting

So, you already have, or are thinking of having a child, and you are wanting to provide the best parenting and family experience for a healthy, happy, and flourishing start to your child’s life. Counselling can offer proven strategies for helping you to raise a happy, healthy, and socially well-adjusted child. Some of the areas of parenting you might want assistance with are discipline, mental health, learning and education, sleeping and eating, tantrums and crying, and socialization.


Additional Practice Areas

If you have concerns about issues that were not mentioned in the menu, Lifespring offers couples counselling services for many other areas. Feel free to inquire about our areas of practice at 604.200.9681 or

  • When I decided to find a counsellor, I tried to find someone that I could relate to, someone that is like-minded and down-to-earth and with Alistair I really found the right person. He uses an integrative approach, showed me techniques to relax and get aware of my emotions, and helped me see things in a new perspective. Of course this is an ongoing process but I enjoy meeting and working with Alistair every time. The downtown office is a very neutral place – not too intimate, not too clinical – which is helpful to overcome apprehension, especially the first couple of times. What I find remarkable is that Alistair almost always knows what I’m trying to say, even if I can’t put it into words. Working with Alistair helped me a lot and it was the right decision to put my trust in him.

    - Michael S.

  • Alistair really cares about you the person, and I could really feel him trying to tackle my challenges. He was also very available for off-session contact via text and email. I think he did a great job with confronting me where I needed it. Alistair always could remember the important peoples' names in my personal life, which really helped with talking about my problems. I really felt like I was talking to a friend.
    Definitely feels great that they're options out there get help and I achieved a lot with Alister in as little as 5 sessions.

    — Max A

  • I have been working with Alistair Gordon as my counsellor at Lifespring for almost 6 months now and cannot begin to tell you how far I have come with his help. I have tried working with other counsellors and therapists in the past but never really found one that clicked for me. I always felt judged, unsupported, and rushed at those appointments until I booked my first appointment with Lifespring and with Allistair. Read More

    — Elyse Renouf

  • I am a young professional which for a long time now, has struggled with anxiety, insecurity, and difficulty in finding effective life coping mechanisms. Alistair was referred to me by a friend and upon the first meeting, I found Alistair to be empathetic, compassionate and intuitive. I have now been seeing Alistair regularly for 6 months and through that time my anxiety has significantly decreased, Read More

    — Kahir Lalji

  • I am very glad that I had the chance to work with Alistair. It was easy to connect right from the start. He uses an integrative approach, showed me techniques to relax and helped me see things in a new perspective. One of Alistair’s most remarkable qualities is that he almost always knows what I’m trying to say, even if I can’t put it into words. Contacting Alistair and working with him was definitely the right decision.

    — Michael Silberhorn

  • I had no experience with therapy and was unsure of the whole process. Alistair made everything very accessible and unintimidating. It was clear that he puts quite a lot of effort and preparation into every session. I'm so glad that I decided to do this, and could not have asked for a better person to help me with this. I would highly reccomend Alistair to anyone who has ever thought that they might benefit from talking to a professional.

    — Edward Hicks

  • I enjoy how sessions are collaborative where I can take the lead for the direction of what we talk about, and at the same time I know that Alistair will offer helpful guidance and insight along the way. I also like how we focus on the future instead of just the past. I find this to be empowering and helpful to move forward in life.

    — RM

  • Alistair is an awesome counsellor. He has been so helpful in working with me through some tough times in my life. He's always been available to chat with me in-between sessions. I'd recommend Alistair to anyone - he's really the ideal counsellor in my view.

    — JG



  • I have always felt very comfortable with Alistair. He has a calming presence, and you can tell he cares about being the best counsellor for you. He helps you with all aspects of your concern, and is always able to help me find a solution to the problem I'm having.

    — SD



  • Alistair is an exceptionally talented counsellor and has always demonstrated strong ethics, great compassion, wisdom and respect for others. I highly recommend him as a counselling practitioner.

    — Dr. Marla Buchanan

    Director of the UBC Centre for Group Counselling and Trauma,
    University of British Columbia


  • Mr. Gordon is someone that captures the spirit and the heart of active engagement. He is empathic, genuine and incorporates action and creative problem solving into his practice. I have no hesitation in recommending Mr. Gordon as an effective career and personal counsellor.

    — Dr. Norman Amundson

    Professor of Counselling Psychology at the University of British Columbia, Author of "Active Engagement: The Being and Doing of Career Counselling"